RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT’S MANUAL LESSON EIGHTEEN 30TH DECEMBER 2018: PRACTICAL LOVE IN MARRIAGE (PART 1)
*SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN*
*1.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
*2.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day, Thy friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
*3.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
*4.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.
*5.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.
*6.* O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
MEMORY VERSE: “My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but indeed and in truth.” – 1John 3:18
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1Corinthians 7:2-5
1 Corinthians:7.2
Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians:7.3
Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
1 Corinthians:7.4
The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband [does.] And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife [does.]
1 Corinthians:7.5
Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
INTRODUCTION:
Love is a fundamental characteristic of who God is (1John 4:7-8). Everything God does is prompted and influenced by His love. The Bible uses several different words for ‘’love’’ in the Hebrew and Greek, interchanging them depending on context of these words mean ‘’affectionate love’’, others indicate ‘’friendship’’, and still others, ‘’erotic/sexual love’’ as well as ‘’sacrificial/charitable love’’.
In this study we shall examine each one as they apply to marriage.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. “Eros” Erotic/Sexual love
2. “Phileo” Friendship love
“EROS” – EROTIC/SEXUAL LOVE
Erotic/Sexual love is derived from the Greek word ‘’Eros’’. It is the word often used to express sexual love or the feelings of arousal that are shared between people who are physically attracted to each other.
It has its godly fulfilment in a legal marriage between a man and a woman (Matthew 19:5). The Bible admonishes married couples not to deny each other of erotic/sexual love (1Corinthians 7:2-5).
Sexual intimacy in marriage strengthens the bond of the relationship. Foreplay and varieties of approach should be employed by Christian couples (Songs 1:13,15-16; Proverbs 5:19-20; Ecclesiastes 4:11).
Knowledge on how to properly explore this type of love should be sought by Christian couples through counselling and Christian literatures (Hosea 4:6).
Erotic/sexual activity in marriage should not be viewed as sin. However, it becomes a sin when it is perverted or expressed outside marriage (Romans 1:24-28; 1Corinthians 6:9; Revelations 21:8; 1Thessalonians 4:3).
“PHILEO”– FRIENDSHIP LOVE
Philia refers to brotherly/friendship love and is most often exhibited in a close friendship (Proverbs 18:24). Best friends will display this generous love for each other as each seeks to make the other happy.
The scriptural account of David and Jonathan is an excellent illustration of phileo (friendship) love (1Samuel 18:1-3).
Since phileo love involves feelings of warmth and affection toward another person, married couples should see each other as best of friends. This love cherishes the beloved but it expects a response (Romans 12:10).
It is a love of relationship, comradeship, sharing, communication and friendship (Proverbs 17:17). Married couples should share in each other’s thoughts, feelings, attitudes, plans and dreams (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).
They should also confide in each other the most intimate secrets, fears and needs that they would not share with a third-party (Proverbs 27:17).
A marriage without phileo will be unsatisfactory no matter the passion in the bedroom. God’s desire for the husband and wife is that they tenderly love each other while they overlook each other’s faults and failures (1Peter 4:8).
CONCLUSION
The love that lasts longer than dinner and a movie must be made up of Eros (Physical attraction) and Phileo (Friendship). Do your best to be intimate with your partner in marriage.
QUESTIONS
1. Briefly explain your understanding of erotic/sexual love.
2. What is the important of friendship love in marriage?
Thanks for this wonderful topic; Practical love in marriage, part 1.
My question is why do women/wives most often relegate in their supposed duties especially in practical love making? This is very common among Christian women. Are they not trying to push their believing husband out to commit sin if such husband(s) is/are not discipline?
Thank God for this topic but what should the woman do if her husband refuses to fulfill his conjugal obligation ?