RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENTS’ MANUAL 3 JULY 2022
LESSON FORTY FOUR (44)
TOPIC: APOLOGISING CORRECTLY
SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friendship suits me well,
Both young and will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessings
5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.
6. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
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“Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.” Romans 14:19.
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 SAMUEL 15:12-26.
 And when Samuel rose early to meet Saul in the morning, it was told Samuel, saying, Saul came to Carmel, and, behold, he set him up a place, and is gone about, and passed on, and gone down to Gilgal.
And Samuel came to Saul: and Saul said unto him, Blessed be thou of the LORD: I have performed the commandment of the LORD.
And Samuel said, What meaneth then this bleating of the sheep in mine ears, and the lowing of the oxen which I hear?
And Saul said, They have brought them from the Amalekites: for the people spared the best of the sheep and of the oxen, to sacrifice unto the LORD thy God; and the rest we have utterly destroyed.
Then Samuel said unto Saul, Stay, and I will tell thee what the LORD hath said to me this night. And he said unto him, Say on.
And Samuel said, When thou wast little in thine own sight, wast thou not made the head of the tribes of Israel, and the LORD anointed thee king over Israel?
And the LORD sent thee on a journey, and said, Go and utterly destroy the sinners the Amalekites, and fight against them until they be consumed.
Wherefore then didst thou not obey the voice of the LORD, but didst fly upon the spoil, and didst evil in the sight of the LORD?
And Saul said unto Samuel, Yea, I have obeyed the voice of the LORD, and have gone the way which the LORD sent me, and have brought Agag the king of Amalek, and have utterly destroyed the Amalekites.
But the people took of the spoil, sheep and oxen, the chief of the things which should have been utterly destroyed, to sacrifice unto the LORD thy God in Gilgal.
And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams.
For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.
And Saul said unto Samuel, I have sinned: for I have transgressed the commandment of the LORD, and thy words: because I feared the people, and obeyed their voice.
Now therefore, I pray thee, pardon my sin, and turn again with me, that I may worship the LORD.
And Samuel said unto Saul, I will not return with thee: for thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, and the LORD hath rejected thee from being king over Israel.
INTRODUCTION: Originally, the word ‘apology’ (apologia in Greek) means a defence, excuse, or justification in speech or writing, as for a cause or doctrine. However, towards the end of the 16th century there was a twist in the use of the word ‘apology’ to mean a written or spoken expression of one’s regret, remorse, or sorrow for having insulted, failed, injured, or wronged another.
As Christians, we know we are meant to be kind, loving, humble and respectful (Eph.4:32). One true test of this is how we handle situations when we have been wronged or wrong others. A lot of people find it hard to admit when confronted with the wrongs they have committed. Some may even find it harder to ask someone for forgiveness especially when they feel the other person shares in the blame.
1. WHY ‘I AM SORRY’ IS NOT ENOUGH?
2. THE CORRECT APPROACH
1. WHY ‘I AM SORRY’ IS NOT ENOUGH?
There is a subtle but sensitive difference between saying ‘sorry’ and apologising correctly. Most times, people’s idea of apology is insufficient. For some, offering an apology is all about verbally saying ‘I am sorry’ but this is only a band-aid in that it covers up painful events for the other person without really making things right. It does not also fully take into account the level of wrong done. Although, simply saying ‘I am sorry’ might ease the tension of bumping into someone accidentally or mistakenly saying what should not be said, but when we have truly wronged someone, that person needs us to accept responsibility for the pain caused. Saying sorry just because we are caught and not because we are humble enough to truly admit our wrongs or shifting blames (making excuses) is called ‘fauxpology’ (false apology). This is wrong and God is not impressed (Gen.50:15-18; 1Sam.15:24-26).
Therefore, a true apology focuses on your actions and not on the other person’s response/reaction.
2. THE CORRECT APPROACH
Whenever we wronged God or someone else, God expects us to make things right (2 Chron.7:14). Often, when a person apologises in a wrong way, the offence is not cleared. Some of the wrong approaches to apologising include the following statements:
1.”I was wrong, but you were wrong too.” This is incorrect because you are not taking full responsibility for your offence.
2.”If I have been wrong, please forgive me.” To use “If” before your apology means that you are saying, “I am not really convinced that I was wrong.” Therefore, it is not a real apology.
3.”I am sorry I know I lost my temper, but you made me do it.” This is wrong because you are not taking responsibility for your wrong-doing but putting the blame on the other person.
4. “I said I was sorry. What more do you want from me?” This apology is not correct because the tone is aggressive, not remorseful and may not give the offended enough time to heal.
To apologise correctly, we should take full responsibility for our offence, name the offence, ask the person to forgive us and wait for the answer (Matt.5:23-24). If need be, offer also to make restitution (Lk.19:8).
Here is an example of the right way to apologise: “Christy, I was wrong in losing my temper and talking to you the way I did. Please forgive me.” To settle the matter completely, if the person says that you are forgiven, it is good to ask, “Do I need to say any more about this matter?” When a Christian apologises correctly, he is demonstrating humility, a character quality God holds in high esteem (James 4:10). Being reconciled to an offended brother or sister should be our priority (Matt.5:23-24). Note that you do not apologise to people for being right with God (1John 3:21). Biblical examples of those that offered apologies correctly include the prodigal son (Lk.15:17-20) and Jacob (Gen.32,33).
CONCLUSION: Apologising correctly humbles us and reminds us that we still make mistakes and need forgiveness from God and others.
1. Why is that ‘I am sorry’ is not enough?
2. What is the correct approach to apologies?
FURTHER READING: MON: 2Chron.7:14. TUE: Matt.5:23-24. WED: James 4:10. THUR: 1Sam.15:24-26. FRI: Lk.19:8-9. SATURDAY: 1Jn.3:21-24. SUN: Heb.12:14-15.
ASSIGNMENT: Find five (5) similarities between apology and restitution.