6 BIBLICAL WAYS TO LOVE AND CARE FOR YOUR WIFE
Marriage is good and a thing to be desired in the Lord.
The Bible says that marriage is honorable so we know that God supports marriage when it is done His way.
Looking for Biblical ways to care for your wife is a great thing to do because scriptures encourage that people who are married should be preoccupied with their spouse and not other people’s.
When a believer is unmarried, they are free to more fully “care about the things of the Lord” while “the married man cares about…how to please his wife” and “the married woman cares about…how to please her husband.” (1 Cor 7:32-34).
The Bible is our guide in all things and marriage is not an exception.
Below are 6 ways men should love and care for their wives as seen from scriptures:
1. PROVIDE FOR HER
“But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
1 Timothy 5:8 KJV
It is every good Christian husband’s assignment to work diligently and provide for his family, starting from his wife.
He may not be very rich or have all the luxuries in the world but he works, earns money, and prioritizes providing for his own wife.
Christian men are to show love and care for their brides by doing everything necessary, within the boundaries of the law and the godliness in order to provide for their wives.
Providing for his wife must be the concern and priority of every believing husband.
2. LEAD IN THE WAY OF THE LORD.
Since a Christian marriage is to imitate the marriage between Christ and the church, a godly husband should seek to “wash his wife with the water of the word” and to lead her to the throne of grace.
A Christian husband is to love his wife by leading her in the things of the faith like worship, study of the word, and prayer.
The man is made the head of his wife not to suppress her but to lead her excellently.
As a Christian husband, commit to encouraging your wife in God’s word.
3. BE AFFECTIONATE TO HER
A loving Christian husband is to be affectionate and caring towards his wife.
The very essence of Christianity is love to everyone.
You must show this love in a greater measure to your wife by showing her affection in different ways depending on your current situation and environment.
Creating time to take her out on nice dates, and buying gifts for her are great ways to show affection.
Satisfying her physical needs in terms of intimacy is also commanded by the Bible.
“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her…” (1 Cor. 7:3).
Another great way to be affectionate towards your wife is to praise her publicly like the husband of the Proverbs 31 woman does at the city gates.
Lavishly express your love and affection for your wife without holding back and do it publicly too as long as it is done moderately and you are both comfortable with it.
Christian men must flee from the selfishness that consumes the world where husbands only care about themselves and pay no attention to their wives.
Every godly husband should commit to nurturing and building intimacy and affection with his wife.
4. SHARE HER BURDENS AND MAKE IT EASIER FOR HER
Just as God takes our burdens away and says we can cast it upon Him, (1 Pet 5:7), husband ought to do same for their wives.
Christian husbands must seek to share their wife’s emotional burdens by listening to her, praying for her, and rendering necessary help.
They must also seek to serve her and make her life easier by helping her with physical burdens as well.
The Bible says men are to relate with their wives as I with a weaker vessel.
Thus, husbands should be actively involved in physical activities like fueling her car, doing the laundry, fixing things in house, cleaning the dishes, and so on.
These are some practical and tangible ways that a godly husband can learn to relieve burdens from his wife and show her love in the home.
5. BE PATIENT WITH HER
One of the instructions the Bible gives to husbands regarding the way they are to love their wives is that husbands are to “dwell with their wife with understanding” (1 Pet. 3:7).
A loving Christian husband must seek to be kind, gentle and patient toward his wife.
This involves listening to her every time she needs a listening ear, being patient with her especially when she is under pressure or dealing with issues relating to pregnancy, motherhood, hormonal stress, or even career.
When a wife seems to be folding under the pressures of life, a godly husband must love her and be patient enough to seek to understand why she is struggling even when he can not exactly relate with her burdens.
6. BE HONEST AND VULNERABLE WITH HER
It was said of the first couple in the Bible (Adam and Eve) that they were both naked before each other and unashamed.
This nakedness can be taken to mean transparency.
A loving Christian husband must be open and honest with his wife about his lifestyle, activities, finances, and even struggles.
This of course will be done within the boundaries of wisdom but nothing must be outrightly hidden from one’s wife.
A wife must be able to trust her husband completely and absolutely.
The Bible says when two people become married, they are no longer two but one flesh so everything must become one.
These are some of the ways a Christian husband must show love and care to his wife because they are all things that Christ does for us – His bride.
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