RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT’S MANUAL
YAYA EDITION 26 FEBRUARY 2023
DATE: SUNDAY
LESSON: 26
TOPIC: SECOND INTERACTIVE SECTION (SUMMARY OF LESSONS 14-25)
LESSON: 14
TOPIC: THE MYSTERY OF FAITH
MEMORY VERSE: “Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience”. –Timothy 3:9(NKJV).
BIBLE PASSAGE: HEBREWS 11:3-11
INTRODUCTION
The ultimate Goal of the Christian life is to please God. Pleasing God Is accomplished by Faith (Heb. 11:6). Faith is the foundation of the Christian life and the principle that bring us to Jesus Christ. An understanding of what faith is will help us grow in our walk with the Lord.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. A DESCRIPTION OF FAITH
2. STAGES OF FAITH
A DESCRIPTION OF FAITH
Faith is a currency of believers (Mark. 9:23): when God created the Heavens and the Earth in Gen. 1:1, as well as everything we see (the stars, moon, and light), we understand by faith (Heb. 11:3). Faith works where we cannot see (Heb. 11:1): It is the substance of things hoped for. Faith is predicting your future by speaking and confessing it (Mark 11:24). Faith is the act of declaring and decreeing (Mark 11:23; Job 22:28): It is the vehicle that moves God (Matt. 8:9-10; 15:25-28). Faith is the pillar for salvation (Eph. 2:8; Rom. 10:9-10): pursuing a Christ-like life is a demonstration of faith (Heb. 10:38-39).
STAGES OF FAITH
1. The faith that secures our salvation and make us followers of Jesus. This is the fundamental theology and the core of what we believe as Christians (Rom. 10:4; Jh. 14:6; Eph. 1:13). It is what makes us believers (Jh. 1:12). It is what separates Christianity from other religions (1Jh. 4:1-3).
2. The faith that is an act, art and the science of believing. It is the practical aspect of our profession as Christians that makes us hold on the word or promise of God against all odds (Rom. 4:18-21).
3. The lifestyle of faith. This is when faith has become our lifestyle, we live it. At this stage, it is impossible not to believe in God. We do not stagger at what we see or experience (Dan. 3:16-18; Acts 21:11-13).
CONCLUSION
Faith is both a gift and fruit of the Holy Spirit (1Cor. 12:9; Gal. 5:22). It is the fuel that keeps is going as believers.
*LESSON: FIVETEEN*
TOPIC: THE ZEALOUS PHINEHAS
MEMORY VERSE: “Phinehas the Son of Eleazer, the Son of Aaron the preist, has turned back my wrath from the children of Israel, because he was zealous with my zeal among them, so that I did not consume the children of Israel in my zeal”. –Timothy 3:9(NKJV).
BIBLE PASSAGE: NUMBERS 25:6-13
INTRODUCTION
Phinehas was the son of the high priest, Eleazer (exodus 6:25), and the grandson of Aaron, The name Phinehas is primarily a male name of Greek origin that means, Face of protection. Although not a major Bible character, is record as a hero cannot be overlooked.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. HIS CHARACTER
2. ACHIEVEMENT AND LESSONS
HIS CHARACTER
Phinehas had an undying hunger for God thus sin was an irritating to him (Matthew 5:6). He was an outstanding and respected leader, who was delegated to meet with the children of Reuben, Gad, and half – tribe of Manasseh when they built an altar against the land of Canaan, in the borders of Jordan (Joshua 22:13). He was a good mediator who was able to resolve the conflict that would have erupted amongst the Israelites (Joshua 22:31-33). He was a responsible young man who provided a place of rest for his father. (Joshua 24:33). He was a wise and faithful priest who took charge of the sacred objects and trumpet for giving signals during the war against the Midianite (Numbers 31:6)
ACHIEVEMENT AND LESSONS
This young man named Phineas hard right standing with God, thus he was bold to confront sin (Proverbs 28:1). His zeal for God turned away God’s wrath from the children of Israel (Numbers 25:11). His righteous act stop the plague and exalted the nation of Israel (Proverbs 14:34). He was fearless in putting an end to a sinful act (2Timothy 1:7). He stood out amongst his equals (Psalm 106:30-31). He had a passion for God’s commandments so he knew what he wanted (Psalm 119:9). He was a vibrant young man (1John 2:14). He secure a covenant of peace and everlasting priesthood for himself and his linage (Numbers 25 :12-13). He saw an Israelites having an unlawful love affair with a medianite woman in Israel’s camp when the whole nation was mourning and because of his zeal for God, he stopped the nefarious acts and thus putting an end to the plague (Numbers 25:7-8). He was a daring young man who went all the way for God.
The uncommon zeal exhibited by Phineas is remarkable and worthy of emulation. Our enthusiasm for God can avert danger and bring about a blessing to our lineage thus making us a source of blessing to our family and nation at large (Numbers 25:13). We must stand out of the crowd and be passionate about God.
CONCLUSION
The story of Phineas is a pointer that we can make a difference anywhere we are.
*LESSON: SIXTEEN*
TOPIC: LEADERSHIP: MEANING AND THEORIES
MEMORY VERSE: “So he shepherded them according to the integrity of his heart; and guided them by the skilfulness of his hands.”. — Psalm 78:72(NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: MATTHEW 20:25-28
INTRODUCTION
Everything rises and falls with leadership. The more skillful and effective the leadership, the better the group or organisation runs, and the more the potential for growth increases. While some argue that leaders are born, the making of a true leader is not a ‘sprint’ but a ‘marathon’. It is therefore expedient to carefully and painstakinly learn about leadership and be skilled in the art.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. LEADERSHIP DESCRIBED
2. LEADERSHIP THEORIES
LEADERSHIP DESCRIBED
Many scholars have attempted to define or describe the term ‘leadership’. For instance, leadership is said to be a relationship between those who aspire to lead and those who choose to follow (John 21:3). Leadership is a process whereby an individual influences a group of individuals to achieve a common goal (Mark 3:14). Leadership is any behaviour that influences the actions and attitude of others to achieve certain results (Genesis 7:5-7). Societal values determine whether the leadership of a an individual is positive or negative (Isaiah 9:16), based on the goals and results being pursued and on the means used to influence others. Christian leaders leadership is an interpersonal behaviour (John 10:27;12:26). It is a relationship between a ‘mature’ Christian (who is willing to take responsibility) and a group of believers in Christ (who are willing to be responsible followers) with the aim of influencing them to achieve the common goal of doing God’s will in this world and making it to Heaven (1Corinthians 11:1;Luke 9:57).
A leader is someone who can see how things can be improved and Who rallies people to move towards that better vision. Leaders can work towards making their vision a reality while putting people first. Just being able to motivate people is not enough – leaders needs to be empathetic and connect with people to be successful. Leaders do not have to come from the same background or follow the same part. Future leaders will actually be more diverse, which brings a variety of perspectives.
LEADERSHIP THEORIES
Various leadership theories have emerged over the year and in attempt to explain the complexities of leadership. The following theories offer a diverse and representative view of leadership:
1. “Great leader” theories: in great leader theories assume that great leaders are born not made (Jeremiah 1:5; Judges 13:5).
2. Traits theory: similar in some ways to “great leader” theories, trait theories assume that people inherit certain behaviours, quality, and traits that make them suited for leadership (2Kings 14:1-3).
3. Situational theories: situational theories proposed that leaders will demonstrate a particular style of leadership depending on the given situation (1Corinthians 9:19-20)
4. Behavioral (functional) theories: behavioral theories of leadership are based on the belief that leaders are made, not born (the opposite of the “great leaders” theories) *Daniel 1:8, 20-21;6:1-3*
5. Transactional theories: transactional theories focus on the principle that followers are motivated by a system of risk and reward. If individuals or teams achieved their identify goal(s), they will be rewarded and if they do not succeed, they will be punished (Matthew 25:14-30).
6. Transformational theories: transformational theories are based on the idea that leaders motivate their followers. This will inspire team members of followers to perform for the good of the team (John 14:12-14).
CONCLUSION
Every man has a trait of leadership and them. Discover yours with the help of the Holy Spirit and make up your mind to be a leader after God’s heart.
*LESSON: SEVENTEEN*
TOPIC: LEADERSHIP: MEANS AND ROLES
MEMORY VERSE: “Discretion will preserve you; understanding will keep you”. — Proverbs 2:11(NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 41:38-41
INTRODUCTION
Having discovered what leadership is and certain theories of leadership with biblical instances, we need to find out how to become leaders as Christians. Equally, based on the situational theories of leadership, the role of team leaders should evolve as team develop through different stages. Effective leaders are aware of the stages and carry out the necessary actions required at each stage that will enable the team to be successful.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. MEANS OF BECOMING LEADER
2. THE ROLE OF LEADERS
MEANS OF BECOMING LEADER
There are various means of attaining leadership positions. These means includes:
1. Qualification: some people become leaders because they achieve the necessary certification or credentials for a position, e.g Vice-chancellor, Judges, etc. (Daniel 1:17-20).
2. Merit: Some people become leaders primarily through faithful and enthusiastic participation as well as competent performance over time. These leaders may be considered to have “paid their dues” (1Samuel 17:31-37). E.g. sSudent Union leaders.
3. Capturing: some people become leaders by campaigning for a position being political, or otherwise maneuvering themselves into a position. Leaders in this category may also take possession or seize the position through positive or negative means. E.g. politicians, military dictators, etc. (2Samuel 15:6).
4. Identification: Some people become leaders because they possess personal or professional qualities that are recognised as beneficial and undeniable, and are appropriate for meeting the team’s need at a particular time (Genesis 41:38-41). E.g. project manager of a business course representatives, etc.
5. Default: Some people become leaders simply because other team members are unwilling or unable to accept the position of responsibility. An example is someone in a small discussion group to lead the discussion (1Samuel 17:10-11, 32).
6. Heritage: some people become leaders simply because they come from a privilege family or ruling class. E.g. children of great business owners, royal descendants, etc. (1Chronicles 19:1)
The categories also overlap, resulting in many ways that someone can attain a leadership position. Leaders can perform as I levels and make valuable contributions to their teams, regardless of how they were selected or designated as a leaders.
THE ROLE OF LEADERS
Certain situations that effective leaders need to be aware of and the actions they can take to deal with them at the various stages of team development are briefly outlined below:
1. Forming: Leaders play a dominant role at this stage. Leader should provide the team with clear direction and establish easily identifiable and understandable objective/outcomes Exodus 4:29-31).
2. Storming: Leaders needs to help team members overcome feelings of discomfort and be aware of any members who may feel overwhelmed (Ephesians 4:31-32). Leaders work to resolve conflicts and build a good relationship between team members. Leaders needs to remain positive and firm in the face of challenges to their leadership or to the team’s goal (Numbers 16:1-3)
3. Norming: Team members come to respect the leader’s authority and some members demonstrate leadership in specific areas. Team leaders can take a step back from the team at this stage as individual members take greater responsibility (Exodus 18:14-17). This is also when a team hierarchy was established.
4. Performing: The leaders are able to delegate much of the work and can concentrate on developing the skills and abilities of individual team members (Exodus 18:21). Leaders should organise “get together/fun time” as much as possible with a view to celebrate success once the team has achieved high performance. Being a part of the team at this stage feels easy and comfortable compared to the early stages.
5. Adjourning: Team may organise a celebratory event at the end of a project. Team members will likely leave with fond memories of their experience.
CONCLUSION
You should influence people around you positively.
*LESSON: EIGHTEEN*
TOPIC: ‘EUCHARISTIA’
MEMORY VERSE: “That I may proclaim with the voice of thanksgiving, And tell of all Your wondrous works”. – Psalm 26:7 (NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: PSALM 100:1-5
INTRODUCTION
‘Eucharistia’ is the Greek word that literally means thanksgiving or gratitude. It is an active grateful language (to God, as an act of worship) or thankfulness. To be thankful literarily means to be appreciative or full of thanks. Though some people are ungrateful for various reasons, we must not be ingrates because of its attendant dangers.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. REASONS AND BENEFITS OF THANKSGIVING
2. DANGERS OF INGRATITUDE
REASONS AND BENEFITS OF THANKSGIVING
Thanksgiving is a command (1Chronicles 16:8). The request of a believer should start and end with thanksgiving (Philippians 4:6). We thank God for victories over battles of life (Jonah 2:9). It is important to thank God for His mercies and divine provisions (Psalm 68:19; Micah 7:18-20). Thanksgiving is offered to God for His miracles and restoration of hope (1Samuel 2:1-5; Psalm 126:1-2). The primary reason God created us in His image is for fellowship, thanksgiving, praise and joyful heart (Isaiah 43:21)
If you will cultivate the habit of showing gratitude to God, you will compel overflowing blessing from Him. These blessings include: answer prayers (John 11:41-44); abundant provision (Mark 8:6-8); deliverance from bondage (Acts 16:25-26). Thankful people are peaceful and joyful (Philippians 4:6-7). They enjoy divine presence (Psalm 22:3; 95:2), completed restoration, wholeness (Luke 17:16-19) and victory without a fight (2Chronicles 20:21-23).
DANGERS OF INGRATITUDE
Ingratitude is the result of vain imagination and darkened heart. Sometimes your thanksgiving is senseless to the ordinary person but it is more profitable to be thankful than to complain (Romans 1:12; Proverbs 15:8). There are several reasons people are ungrateful to God. Sin or Spiritual blindness (Ephesians 4:17-18). Refusal to take account of what God has done (Romans 1:12). Pride (Acts 12:21-23).
Every act of ingratitude comes with it’s attendant danger. Risk of losing the existing blessing, salvation and Heaven (Matthew 25:24-25, 30). Limiting one’s blessing or answered prayers (Luke 27:12-16,19). It could result in emptiness and sorrow (Proverbs 15:13; 17:22) thereby, making restoration practically difficult.
CONCLUSION
Showing gratitude to God ensures continuous divine presence and fellowship.
*LESSON: NINETEEN*
TOPIC: LIFE SKILLS: CAREER BUILDING
MEMORY VERSE: “The man Jeroboam was a mighty man of valour; and Solomon, seeing that the young man was industrious, made him officer over all the labour force of the house of Joseph”. — 1Kings 11:28(NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: EXODUS 31:1-11
INTRODUCTION
Building your career to an enviable height is what you should set your mind to. Having a successful career will bring honour to your maker who deposited treasures in you (2Corinthians 4:7) and a lot of benefits and profitable opportunities would accrue to you and others. As a believer, you are expected to take the lead and stand out in endeavor (Deuteronomy 28:13; Matthew 5:14). You must influence your world positively; one of such ways is by showing forth the talents embedded in you as you stand out in your chosen career. In this lesson, we shall examine career paths and career building.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. CAREER PATH
2. HOW TO BUILD A GOOD CAREER
CAREER PATH
A career paths is a series of jobs that uses similar skills either in one or more professions, especially in a planned way, going from one job to a more important one which leads to your short- and long-term career goals. To have a successful career paths, it is expedient that you know yourself well: recognise your strengths (1Samuel 17:32) and weaknesses, area of interest, passion, etc. (Genesis 46:33-34). You must acknowledge the talents (Matthew 25:15) divinely endowed to you by God and ask Him for guidance in your career route. Information is power as a result; you need to be adequately informed on what your carrier track entails and the future it holds. It is advisable to meet people in that field of study (Daniel 2:17-18) and know what it is like to be in that profession (Acts 22:3). You should also open yourself up to the prospects of your career track to know if is viable (Acts 16:14a) or not sustainable interest in relation to your goals matter before you choose their career
HOW TO BUILD A GOOD CAREER
Having wisely chosen a career route, you need to know how to build your career and be comfortable in it. To be successful, you must figure out strategies that successful professional believers use and follow in their steps (2Thessalonians 3:7a). A quality resume showcases what you are good at; create a professional and neat resume to meet opportunities (1Samuel 17:34-36). You also need to assume responsibility for your actions and not blame anyone for your predicaments (Galatians 6:5). You need to brand your names and services (Galatians 1:1) constantly to establish yourselves in the marketplace and improve on what you do in order to stand out of the crowd (Ezra 7:6) this can be done by starting a blog, creating a professional social media profile, or simply by providing excellent services. Successful people network and build profitable life-lasting relationships (Romans 16:3-16). Always ask God for help (John 15:5).
CONCLUSION
Career building is not a day’s job rather it is a process that requires working hard and smart coupled with a lot of determination, with God as your ally.
*LESSON: TWENTY*
TOPIC: THE POWER OF CHOICE
MEMORY VERSE: ” I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live”. — Deuteronomy 30:19
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 13:8-13
INTRODUCTION
Simply put, choice is the act of picking between two or more possibilities. The power of choice is the strong will to make a decision in the mist of several options. While it is generally opined that man is a choice being, scriptures clearly established that God has given man the power to choose (Joshua 24:15). However, we live with the consequences of the choices we make whether good or bad. The onus therefore, lies on us to make the right choices which is in turn determine the course of our lives.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. COMMON CHOICES AND CONSEQUENCES
2. FACTORS THAT INFLUENCE CHOICES
COMMON CHOICES AND CONSEQUENCES
There are several choices we make in life with their attendance consequences. For instance, the choices we make about food and exercise influence our physical health (Proverbs 25:16). The choices we make about our academic pursuits often affect our career and occupations. The choices we make in reaction to life’s adversities affect our psychological well-being (Proverbs 24:10). Other major choices we make in life include:
1. The choice of where to live/settle may determine the peace or discomfort, blessing or trouble we will have (Genesis 13:8-11; 19:13; 26:1-2, 12-13)
2. The choice of who we marry will determine the bliss we enjoy or the blows we endure (Proverbs 18:22; 31:28; Proverbs 21:19; 1Kings 11:4).
3. The choice of the friends we keep will determine how far we’ll go and the quality of life we live (Proverbs 13:20; 18:24; 2Samuel 13:5; 10:14, 28-29)
4. The choices we make to be different will determine whether or not we will stand out from the crowd (Daniel 1:8,19; Hebrews 11:24-26).
5. The choice we make whether to serve God or not will determine the eternal reward we will get (Joshua 24:15; Revelation 22:11-12).
FACTORS THAT INFLUENCE CHOICES
Many factors influence the choices we make in life. We need to crave the right knowledge in order to be well-informed (Proverbs 18:15). Self-control will help guide our choices and prevent us from making a rational decisions (James 1:19; 1Samuel 25:10). We must make good plans and be guided by good vision before we make a choice (Ruth 3:1-4; Proverbs 16:3,9). More importantly, prayers will enable us to key into the mind of God (1Samuel 30:7-8; Psalm 37:5,23)
Conversely, pride, hypocrisy, doubt, and negative thoughts among others, will hinder us from making the right choices (Proverbs 11:2; Psalm 10:4; Isaiah 32:6; James 1:8). We must strive to always have the correct mind frame all the time (Proverbs 4:23).
CONCLUSION
If we have made the wrong choice in the past, it is time to forgive ourselves and move on with life as we make necessary corrections to avoid any repetition of such.
*LESSON: TWENTY-ONE*
TOPIC: INTENTIONAL PREMARITAL RELATIONSHIP (COURTSHIP)
MEMORY VERSE: “Now let it be that the young woman to whom I say, please let down your pitcher that I may drink; and she say, Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink -let her be the one you have appointed for your servant Isaac And by this I will know that You have shown kindness to my master”. — Genesis 24:14(NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 24:1-7
INTRODUCTION
Studies have shown lots of break-ups in premarital relationships because many of the relationships were accidental rather than intentional. Some started the premarital journey (courtship), without purpose, vision, and adequate guidance from God and good counselors. As a result, the whole experience become moribund.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. THE COMPOSITION
2. THE BENEFITS
THE COMPOSITION
An ideal premarital relationship/courtship should be made up of two full-grown adult (male and female) who have a vision of establishing a godly home (Genesis 2:24). It should be purposeful and not wishy wishy. There is a goal of marriage in sight (Genesis 2:18). It should be filled with realistic dreams and not a ‘eldorados’ (Genesis 24:40). The two of them should take time to build a structure with a good base so they will not major on the minor (Luke 6:48). The two adults should have a good understanding of each other (Proverbs 24:3). It should be deliberate and pure (Matthew 5:8a; Hebrews 13:4). It should well planned with full details of how to move from one point to another (Isaiah 28:10). It progresses by the he day from just seeing each other from a distance to becoming close friends (Song of Solomon 1:14). It should be fun-field and built on trust
THE BENEFITS
The following are some of the numerous benefits of an intentional premarital relationship during courtship:
1. It provides a Solid Marital Foundation: if the relationship is well established or grounded, it will serve as a template for the couple on getting married (Psalm 11:3). As a result any kind of wind does not blow the marriage away (Proverbs 10:25)
2. It makes room for a Direction-Driven relationship: There is a real realistic destination in mind. The details of the relationship are known to the two parties involved. They are on the same page (Genesis 29:20-21)
3. The relationship will be filled with hope and assurances: it will be devoid of uncertainty and full of realistic expectations and optimism (Genesis 29:18)
4. A progressive and flourishing adventure will be experienced (Psalm 92:12).
5. There will also be peace and joy in the relationship: it is void of struggles because there are only two mature adults with positive intention (Philipians 4:7; Genesis 24:67)
CONCLUSION
An intentional premarital relationship during courtship ultimately leads to a good and godly marriage
*LESSON: TWENTY-TWO*
TOPIC: YOU ARE IMPORTANT
MEMORY VERSE: “What is man that you are mindful of him, And the son of man that you visit him?”. — Psalm 8:4(NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: ISAIAH 49:14-16
INTRODUCTION
As a human being, you are so important that you have about 100 billion nerve cells in your brain and that brain is said to be a supercomputer. God also inscribed your name on the palms of His hands (Isaiah 49:16) and so you are always before Him. You are so relevant to God that He gave His son Jesus for your life (John 3:16). The Psalmist even asked God a fundamental question about you in (Psalm 8:4) “What is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you visit him?” It is high time you begin to walk and live in that height of significance irrespective of your colour, gender, or physique.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE
2. WALKING IN SIGNIFICANCE
FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE
You are so special and significance in the plans of God that, He took the time to make you in His image and likeness (Genesis 1:26). Even while you were in the womb, nobody knew how your bones were formed, except God (Ecclesiastes 11:5). As a unique individual, all the hairs of your head are numbered and known to God (Matthew 10:31). You are so awesomely created that no one else is exactly like you: your thumbprints are so distinct and there is no other thumbprints like yours. Your eyes are so vital they are called the light of the body (Matthew 6:22). You are so central in God’s program that after creation He looks at you and said you are very good (Genesis 1:31). He made you a sweet fragrance of Christ (2Corinthians 2:15). You are privileged to be called the heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ Jesus (Romans 8:17). The Spirit of God dwells in you, so you carry His presence (Romans 8:11).
WALKING IN SIGNIFICANCE
With the knowledge of being fearfully created in the likeness of God, it is imperative that you work and live significantly in that light (Matthew 5:14). As joint-heirs with Christ you are to work in dominion (Genesis 1:26) with your heads lifted high in Christ Jesus as a king and priest (Revelation 510; 1Peter 2:9). You must refuse to give in to low self-esteem but rather, walk in the confidence of Christ the King (Acts 2831 As a key personality, you must carry yourself with dignity anywhere you are and refuse to live in fear (2Timothy 1:7). You must stand boldly even before the strong and mighty to declare who you are in Christ Jesus (John 7:26). You must also occupy till He comes (Luke 19:13). Like the saints of old, you have to show your peculiarity as a chosen generation (1Peter 2:9) and a sought-after person (Daniel 4:9)
CONCLUSION
It does not matter whether you tall or short, fat or slim, male or female, etc you are God’s creature who is expected to fulfill a specific purpose on earth. You are important
*LESSON: TWENTY THREE*
TOPIC: SEXUAL PURITY IS COOL
MEMORY VERSE: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality”. — 1Thessalonians 4:3(NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1Corinthians 6:15-20
INTRODUCTION
Purity is important to God and staying sexually pure before and during marriage is trendy because purity has to do with the mind and the act. The sex journey starts from the mind, no wonder Jesus says whoever looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her. Also, Hebrews 13:4 boldly declares that a marriage is honourable when the bed is undefiled. Premarital sex lustful sexual thoughts, and any form of sexual vices are not acceptable to God because God is holy and we are His temple.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. ILLS OF PREMARITAL SEX AND LUSTFUL THOUGHTS.
2. WHY SEXUAL PURITY IS COOL
ILLS OF PREMARITAL SEX AND LUSTFUL THOUGHTS.
To engage in premarital sex (sex before marriage) is to commit a grievous sin in God’s sight (1Corinthians 10:8) and to also sin against one’s body (1Corinthians 6:18). Premarital sex also comes with a sense of hatred or guilt that haunts it victims (2Samuel 13:15). Unwanted pregnancy may result from this illicit sexual act, thus, bringing about shame and it may even result in abortion- which is murder (Exodus 20:13). Some Sexually Transmitted Infections/Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STI/STDs), HIV/AIDS, etc. may result from this illicit act. Also, the negative emotional and phycological impacts of premarital sexual behavior such as; a life of regrets, loss of self-respect, depression (2Samuel 13:19-20), loss of family support, substance abuse, and even suicide are some problems associated with illicit sexual activities.
Apart from the fact that lustful thoughts are sinful (Matthew 5:28), they also help to trigger illicit sex (Mark 7:21) and defile it’s victims (Romans 1:24). In it all, the judgement of God is on those who defile themselves (1Corinthians 3:17). Engaging in uncontrollable lustful thought is a sign that one is not filled with the Holy Spirit as one should (1Thessalonians 4:3-5).
WHY SEXUAL PURITY IS COOL
Sexual purity bring liberty from sin and produces holy vessels that are in ruffled (cool) and free from self guilt (Galatians 5:1-2, 2Timothy2:22). Staying pure sexually prevents emotional entanglements that may negatively affect future relationship and marriages (1Corinthians 6:16). It secures one’s destiny for good (Genesis 39:12; 41:38-42). The pure in heart are blessed because they will see God (Matthew 5:8). Sexual purity helps to maintain a steady relationship with God (Psalm 24:3-4). It also brings about peace with God and with oneself (Romans 8:6). The fear of contracting STIs/STDs will be eliminated. Unlawful partners do not have access to your godly temple (2Corinthians 6:15-16). You honour God and he honours you in return (1Samuel 2:30b).
CONCLUSION
Staying sexually pure is realistic when the flesh is put under subjection all the time and the Holy Spirit is in control.
*LESSON: TWENTY-FOUR*
TOPIC: HANDLING CRUSHES
MEMORY VERSE: “Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul”. — 1Peter 2:11
BIBLE PASSAGE: 2SAMUEL 13:1-15
INTRODUCTION
To ‘crush on someone’ is to have a feeling of romantic love for that person, especially someone you have have not met physically or have any relationship with. Furthermore, the way someone smells, laughs, or smiles can play role in creating a crush while the feelings accompanying a crush can be overpowering. Crushing on someone is synonymous with ‘infatuation’ (an obsessive focus on the opposite gender). This study will attempt to distinguish between crushes and real love as well as proffer a way to handle this feeling.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CRUSH AND REAL LOVE
2. HOW TO HANDLE CRUSHES
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CRUSH AND REAL LOVE
Crush may begin just the same way love does, but love goes beyond physically and emotional attraction s to a point of sacrificed actions (1Cor. 13:4-9). If you observe that you are only attracted to a person because of the person’s external beauty or friendliness, you are just crushing. You also need to know that whenever you discover that your thoughts toward a particular person are predominated by sexual fantasies, coupled with lustful thoughts, then, you might merely be crushing rather than loving. This should not be entertained beyond the first fleeting thought. Love is driven by commitment and patience while crush is driven by emotions, impatience, and satisfaction with one’s selfish desires. Love seeks to serve the other person and does what is best for them (1Cor. 13:4-7) while crush causes you to act foolishly, not caring about anyone but yourself and demanding fulfilment of your wants. Love is a fruit of the spirit (Gal. 5:22) while crush can be the spark that ignites sinful thoughts, such as lust. Love never fail but crush does (1Cor. 13:8).
HOW TO HANDLE CRUSHES
Crushes are natural emotional tendencies that can degenerate to sin if not properly managed. If you find yourself thinking day and night about one person, you may have crossed the line from a normal liking to an in healthy obsession. Seeking intimate times of fellowship with God can help keep the crush in perspective. You start by being honest with the Lord about your feelings, like the Psalmists (Ps. 38:9; 139:23). Ask Him to help you keep your thoughts pure and your action pleasing to him (Ps. 19:14). Ask God for wisdom to handle this difficult situation (Jam. 1:5). In addition, it is important for you to realize that lust is a bad substitute for love (2Sam. 13:15). Do not follow your lustful emotion (Rom. 6:12). Refuse to fuel your lust, walk in the spirit (Gal. 5:25). Confess the word of God to rid your heart of filth (Jn. 17:17). If you are a married person and you are attracted to another person, take time to build what you like in that person in your spouse. Above all, it is very important to seek wise and goodly counsel.
CONCLUSION
Do not run your feelings (Cor. 3:5), life decisions should be made through the guidance of the holy spirit and godly counsel (Prov. 24:6)
*LESSON: TWENTY-FIVE*
TOPIC: MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE
MEMORY VERSE: “And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him”. — Genesis 2:18 (NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: EPHESIANS 5:22-33
INTRODUCTION
Marriage is a wonderful institution ordained by God for the good of humanity. However, just as every item of purchase has a price tag on it, marriage is not different. There are sacrifices and commitments to be put in place for a successful marriage.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. FEATURES OF A GOOD MARRIAGE
2. PRICES TO PAY
FEATURES OF A GOOD MARRIAGE
A good marriage is peaceful. This is not the absence of storms (Luke 8:23) but because Jesus, the Prince of peace, dwells in the couple; the peace of God that passes all understanding is evident in the marriage (Ephesians 2:14; Phillipians 4:7). Joy is also apparent; this joy is however not dependent on ephemeral things of life alone (Romans 15:13; Galatians 5:22). The free flow of forgiveness between a couple signifies a good union (Matthew 6:14). Honouring God and His word is a healthy union (Job 23:11-12, Psalm 119:2-3) as such couples are relieved of unnecessary tensions and confusion. Having a high opinion and being courteous to each other is a characteristic of a good marriage relationship (1Peter 3:6-7). A high level of respect exhibited by couples for each other depicts a noble marriage. Always doting on each other is a good sign of a good marriage (Genesis 26:8). Through knowledge of each other in all areas is important; that means ‘there is nothing to hide’ (Proverbs 13:16). Sustaining the friendship started in courtship shows a good marriage thus the couple enjoys the company of each other (Proverbs 5:18-19).
PRICES TO PAY
A good marriage comes with a high cost which is beyond the cost of an exotic wedding garment or ring. This cost would be paid with a lot of determination, hard work, and prayers. Some of the prices to pay include:
1. Giving up on individualism in order to achieve unity of purpose, especially in the areas of finance and work balance. (1Corinthians 3:3; Psalm 133:1-3).
2. Discarding all selfish behaviours.
3. Being open to each other. Stop hiding necessary information that should be made available to your spouse (Proverbs 27:5, Amos 3:3). Openness relieves the home of speculations and suspicious.
4. The sole belief and use of ‘my’ should be consciously changed to ‘our children’ ‘our responsibilities’ etc. (1Corinthians 4:6-7).
5. Couples should develop a strong link and stick together in their drives and accomplishments in order to have each other’s back (Song of Solomon 1:14; 2:16).
6. Couples must always yield to God through obedience to His word and saying ‘yes’ to His will (Psalm 119:11). The flesh must give way to the Spirit (Galatians 2:20; Galatians 5:19, 22).
7. Be intentional to make sure your marriage works because a successful marriage requires a lot of commitments (Ecclesiastes 9:9).
CONCLUSION
It will take a daily life of sacrifice and commitment to have a good marriage. Are you ready to pay the price?
