RCCG MINDSHIFT CONFERENCE 2022

TOPIC: THE MISSING LINK IN RELATIONSHIP

TEXT: PROVERBS 4:7
BY: REVEREND FOLA ACHUDUME

THE MESSAGE

TEXT- PROVERBS chapter 4
7 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

Determination to be wise is the first step towards becoming wise; with your wisdom, develop common sense and good judgement.

Domestic violence and abuse are increasing in marriages.

2 PETER chapter 1

5 And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge;

6 And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;

7 And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.

8 For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. Kjv

2 PETER chapter 1

5 In view of all this, make every effort to respond to God’s promises. Supplement your faith with a generous provision of moral excellence, and moral excellence with knowledge,

6 and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with patient endurance, and patient endurance with godliness,

7 and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love for everyone.

8 The more you grow like this, the more productive and useful you will be in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. (NLT)

Read: Open Heaven 23 June 2022

MAJOR SUPPLEMENTS THAT WE NEED TO ADD TO OUR FAITH:

(a) Supplement your faith with virtue.
(b) Supplement your faith with knowledge.

THE BEAUTY OF KNOWLEDGE.

PROVERBS chapter 24
3 Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:

4 And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

We need wisdom and knowledge, after the home is established. For it to prosper and be in line with the way God wants, we need a supplement of knowledge that will make riches, peace, and joy to rest in our homes.

PRAYERS:
i. Everyone that is not married here, you will not ‘ṣì’ marry.
ii. We will not marry ‘gbèsè’ o.

Knowledge is key for you not to marry a wrong person.
Knowledge is what you know that sustains you. What you do not know can kill you.

1. It does not matter what has happened in your past, let it go.

Experiences at home and in our previous relationships influence us, and make us bottle up our mind on how to play games in relationships.

Philippians 3:13 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,

If the relationship between your father and mother is not too pleasant, do not allow this to influence you, you have your own life.

(a) GET KNOWLEDGE:

What are your parents’ problems?
Understand the problems and separate yourself from them.
Whatever you have seen in your parents’ marriage that is not good, is not God’s template. God’s template is in the Bible.

1. Experiences we have had in life are fashioned to make us better, not bitter.

It is wrong to say all men/women are Devil.

If all men/women are Devil, who will you marry?

I cannot trust any man/woman again, because the one I trusted …

PRAYERS:
i. Every negative experience you have gone through in life, God will turn to a pleasant experience.

Ii. The ‘Best’ is on his/her and the ‘Best’ will locate you.

Let the past remain in the past because yesterday died last night.

Present yourself today on a knowledge platform.
What is the knowledge platform?
What happened yesterday cannot happen again.

Present yourself on a platform of opportunity and positivity because something great is about to locate you.

Married men/women, forgive your spouses.

PRAYER:
Your past will not swallow up your today, and your today will not swallow up your tomorrow.

2. I must not be desperate, desperation is a killer disease.

Singles, you were not created for marriage, marriage was created for you.

Your essence in life was not primarily marriage, your essence in life is to have dominion. Marriage was created for you as part of the tools we use to exercise dominion on earth.

Desperation makes people stupid, and makes them settle for just anything.

“If I let this man go, who will come again?”

“Look at my age, friends and neighbours, everybody is married, I am the only one remaining.”

Excuse me, it is a lie because there are so many people that are still trusting God for who He will send their way.

You are not alone in your misery.
You are not alone in your pain.
Your pain has a definition.

Every delay has a definition, when the delay is over, it makes you the latest in town.

There are 2018 versions of vehicles.
There are 2022 versions of vehicles.
There are 2022 versions of vehicles.
Which one do you want?
2022 versions of vehicles.

“Mine is coming, and when he/she comes, you will speak in tongues when you see him/her”.

PRAYER:
Because you waited well, God will settle you pleasantly.

Do not be desperate, relax in the hand of God and let Him make it happen.

We cannot afford our originality to be stained because of a need in our lives. God loves you so much to let you be alone, if your desire is to get married.

3. Do not compromise your stand on the stand of immorality.

The reason why we are having divorce today is because our foundations were messed up. We are marrying for wrong reasons and our foundations are being compromised.

Let go of bad habits, immorality, negative mindset, and philosophy.

(b) VIRTUE.
If you want a relationship that will last and stand to be a role model to people, learn to be good.

Goodness is a virtue.

Integrity, faithfulness, and fairness are good virtues.

Genesis 3:15 And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.

We have a battle for the survival of the next generation.

PRAYERS:
i Father, today, we decree, no to broken homes.

ii Father, we ask for Your grace and mercy to bring us back to Your original counsel for the home and family.

CLOSING PRAYER
Anywhere the Devil is arranging evil for you in your home and relationship, as your Amen will thunder, I command the plan to be scattered. You will not ‘ṣì’ marry in life. You will not marry your neighbour. You will not marry your enemy. You will marry your friend. You will marry your wife/husband.