RCCG HOUSE FELLOWSHIP LEADERS’ MANUAL 11 AUGUST 2024
LESSON FIFTY (50)
TOPIC: MARITAL BLISS AND MARITAL BLOWS
HOUSE FELLOWSHIP ANTHEM
1. I love this family of God,
So closely knitted into one,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family
2. I bless this family of God,
So greatly prospered by the Lord,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family
3. I know this family of God,
So deeply rooted in the word,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family
4. I see this family of God,
So highly lifted above all,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family
5. Come, join this family of God,
So highly favoured by the Lord,
They have taken me into their arms
And am so glad to be
A part of this great family.
OPENING PRAYER: Father, please let there be joy and peace in our marriages in Jesus name
PREVIOUS KNOWLEDGE: Leaders should remind members that God has made believers fishers of men but there is a price to pay.
MEMORY VERSE: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. “Proverbs 18:22
BIBLE TEXT: Ephesians 5:25-30
[25]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
[26]That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
[27]That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
[28]So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
[29]For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
[30]For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: Marriage is a sacred institution set up by God when He created the earth and placed man on it to live and dominate it. It is an agreement (Amos 3:3) with a divine seal between a man and woman to talk together as one flesh (Gen.2:24-25) which must be nurtured continuously by both the husband and wife with love. Such love which engineers the required ingredients of submission, tolerance, forgiveness, etc. When the required ingredients are in place, there will be marital bliss. But where these ingredients are lacking, there will be marital blows.
LESSON AIM: To discuss marital bliss and marital blows.
TEACHING OBJECTIVES: At the end of the lesson, members should be able to:
* know the marital bliss.
* know the marital blows.
TEXT REVIEW: Ephesians 5:22-30
a. Apostle Paul, under divine inspiration, admonished women and men in the Ephesian Church that submission and love are the main lubricants that fire and maintain the engine of marriage.
b. Women are to submit to the authority of their own husbands.
c. Husband and wife are also to submit to one another in the fear of God.
d. Love is very powerful, capable of producing ingredients of submission and tolerance.
e. The husband should therefore shower love on his wife in the same proportion in order to enjoy marital bliss thereby preventing marital
blows.
LESSON OUTLINE ONE
WHAT IS MARITALBLISS?
Marital bliss simply means marital happiness, where both husband and wife are at peace and are full of joy. For there to be marital bliss, the twon lubricants of submission and love must be applied daily by both. These lubricants are produced by the following ingredients:
i Seeking God’s wisdom daily-James 1:5; I Cor. 2:14.
ii. Forgiveness – Matthew 7:12; 17:34; Ephesians 4:32.
iii. Resolution of disagreements – Romans 12:17-21; John 7:24. iv. Relationship with third parties (in laws, friends, etc.) Gen. 2:24; Mark 10:7.
v. Trust and effective communication – Prov. 31:10-11; 15:1; Col. 4:6.
vi. Honouring marital vows.
vii. Prayer and fellowship with one another – Acts 2:42; Matt. 18:19.
viii. Contentment – I Timothy 6:6.
LESSON OUTLINE TWO
WHAT ABOUT MARITAL BLOWS?
When the ingredients that produce marital bliss lubricants (submission and love) are absent, the couple will experience marital blows which
manifest in disagreements, hurts, bitterness, anger, divorce, etc.
Causes of marital blows are as follows:
1. Wrong foundation. Foundation of marriage is key to bliss or blow – Psa. 11:3.
2. Unfaithfulness – Hebrews 13:4; Eccl. 9:9.
3. Third Party involvement.
4. Criticism – I Peter 3:7; Prov. 12:4; 31:28.
5. Prayerlessness – I Peter 5:8; Deut. 32:20. When the couple fails to pray, the devil will throw javelins that will cause marital blows.
6. Lack of contentment. When either party begins to compare their spouse with another man or woman-Prov. 5:18, Mal. 2:14, 1 Tim. 6.6
ACTIVITY: Discuss some benefits received through godly marital breakthrough?
SUMMARY: Marriage is an agreement and covenant you commit yourself to. As Christians, we know that God hates putting away.
CONCLUSION: Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured. When there is marital bliss, the couple enjoys marriage but when there are
marital blows, the couple endures marriage. Before making marital vows, we need to ask the Lord and follow Him in our choice of marital partner – Matthew 7:7.
PRAYER POINTS
1. Father, thank You for instituting the partnership between man and woman in Holy matrimony.
2. Father, thank You for every marriage in RCCG.
3. Father, please let every marriage in RCCG be blissful.
4. Father, please refill every marriage in RCCG with the required lubricants of love and submission and let there be marital bliss..
5. Father, please refresh every marriage experiencing marital blows with Your oil of love and let them begin to experience marital bliss.
6. Father break every stronghold of the devil in our marriages in RCCG.
7. Father, please let our marriages give glory to You in Jesus name.
ASSIGNMENT: Let couples identify things that can bring more lubricants to their marriage aside submission and love.
GOLDEN DIET FOR THE WEEK
MONDAY: Fervently pray for your spouse in your closet.
TUESDAY: Fervently pray for your home.
WEDNESDAY: Ephesians 4:26-27.
THURSDAY: Proverbs 21:1 – God can change him or her.
FRIDAY: James 4:7 – Do not stop resisting the devil into your home.
SATURDAY: Nehemiah 8:10b.
SUNDAY: Proverbs 5:3-5 – Beware of the strange man/woman.
